Also I think it’s worth noting I am 26 and he’s 22. I know I broke his heart unspeakably, and I’m terribly ashamed and I’ve tried to make amends, tried to show him things are different, but he uses my past mistakes to justify his CURRENT actions, bc I’ve been nothing but faithful and caring and supportive ever since I’ve gotten sober.  Read: 12 clear ways to know if he serious about you. Nice….. I know that I did not do a good job of showing him how important he is to me. He talks less to her, he doesn’t communicate his feelings or things that are going on in his life anymore and he doesn’t even listen to her anymore. I understand. But not all hope is gone. No matter what you choose, make sure it’s something that liberates you and makes you eternally happy. So he is staying in the relationship just so that we both work things out. He told me that I felt in love earlier than him, because when we started, he was forgetting a woman he stopped seeing because she had a child (a kid, with other man you know). What you’ve written does sound alarming, I have to admit. Let them sweat more. In some cases, you may never find out how and where the issue came from, and you'll have to be okay with not knowing. Kay Made me soup. Your boyfriend may decide to do nothing when you're feeling down. Maybe he is going through something? It seems like he is afraid that if he says I love you, it’s like a marriage proposal. i forgave him, asked him to get it cleaned(that was in march) but upto now he hasnot done anything about it, though i ask him about it. However last night I noticed he was acting strange again. I tried for a good year after we broke up to reconcile. I think it means he is angry at you, probably because you haven’t resolved your conflict in that last conversation. And he freaks out over the simplist things. I’ve been in a relationship for 3.5 years. When we first met things couldn’t have been more amazing, and we fell in love and it was all more than I could have dreamt of. Should I move on I mean he’s been able to call his friends and his mother but not me?? Holds my hand and still sleep in the same bed together. This time round I had a more serious h2h talk with the mention of thinking of breaking up. We would do things together and laugh together. You’re only 28. First of all, anyone who is depressed is not loving himself. I’m very hurt and frustrated and just trying to understand. I was alarmed by the rush, but we went back to his place and became physical. Not a better man, just a different one. No one likes to be told what to do. In some cases, even if the feelings are fading, the relationship isn’t completely over. Christmas came around, he splurged and bought me a $800 gift. He’s helped me through a lot of stress and continued stress of moving house and money issues. He is telling you the truth, and you resisting it. If you were meant to be, you’ll get back together, and it will be effortless. There’s nothing he has to do but be himself. We connected. Hello, I need some advice or help actually..my boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now and I love him very much but the problem is he hasn’t said the I love you words to me. He texted me few days becak he does not feel the same anymore. In this situation I would do what I would do as if I was separated, and this usually means to leave him alone. You have to work on your dependance upon things you say you “need”. I don’t know if he loves me anymore becuse he changes at school when he talks to other girls. We have stayed connected and talk and text each other everyday. But I would spend my nights there. we loved spending time with each other. Notice your thoughts. Here’s my opinion and I want you to give me yours: I think he loves me, we are happy, but it’s true I am the one that gives more. If you notice that your husband is falling out of love with you, then you should act quickly to save your marriage. He his so tender with me, he hugs me and doesn’t want to let go, kissses me all the time, when he tells me he loves me I can feel it, so…I’m so confused. I did all kinds of things to keep him close. Everyone deserves to be happy, no matter what, even you. Please my own question is there is a place you said if your boyfriend have once love you that he can love you again and here now am asking please what can I do to make him love me back because on my own I can’t remember doing anything wrong to him we are just happy all of a sudden he changed he started giving me excuses am busy with work I don’t want to distracted everything started changing he doesn’t reply my text he doesn’t call me like he use to if he call or pick he talks to me like someone else he hangs up my call sometime and say am busy uptill now am so confused and the whole thing is seriously bordering me eating me up yes I know he has actually started cheating on me yet keep claiming am busy but that is not Wat am concerned of my problems is he has time for dem but not me anymore I really love him and I can’t afford to lose him what do I do pls. Minimal fighting, sex regularly (when he’s in the country), I’ve met his family, we kiss all the time, he has talked about us moving in together and moving to a different state together. In our 1st and 2nd year of relationship there are too many obstacle i.e other womens. I was hurt because I felt like he was choosing her over me. i suspect that during our last break he had unprotected sex because the blanket that was on the bed had some stains that clearly looks like he was withdrawing, ans of course he denies this. I really don’t want to lose him. I would welcome any advice. He gets upset when I say something about him hanging to much with his kids and does everything for them I mean they have jobs there in there twentys am I wrong for feeling like this ? We fell for each other within the 1st month. He doesn’t love me anymore! I know that his parents selling the family home and moving abroad really upsets him, as he is an only child and feels abandoned by them. This is the truth and the only way not to ruin a LDR or any other relationship. On the other hand, 14 signs he doesn’t love you Image credit: Shutterstock – By Roman Kosolapov 1. But if y’all work there’s hardly time to do those things. As soon as I met him I thought he was my one. Although not everything is about sex but he isn’t interested in pleasing me anymore he’s more interested in having his bit then going to sleep this makes me feel like it’s pointless and I’ve told him this there isn’t any point. But given what he said about the relationship making him depressed, him snapping and loosing his temper at me could that be linked to his depression/stress and not towards me directly. And he said he cares about me a lot. Thank you for writing. However after that, he spent most of his time playing games with his friends. We both dont know how to talk about emotions and he doesnt understand when he makes me feel bad. As some may say, a woman's intuition rarely tells a lie. He’s actually brutally honest. But when time goes by, we start depending on our spouse to be able to be happy. Freedom to be who he is just the way he is. We would study together, eat togtehr , sleep toegther. So is he now treating me like a little sister that he is responsible for since i stay at his house, or does he still have feeling for me and is trying to fix it but wont show affection because of his ego? It’s lately he’s been very close to his phone I can touch it without him telling me to put it down but he can go on mine at his leisure……he never calls me beautiful! He won’t respond to my messages while playing like he used to. I did a surprise visit and found out his cheating on me with 3 other girls. It has nothing to do with you, I assure you, but that’s still the truth. If he did, he wouldn't back down in trying to make you feel better. I've been trying to ignore it. It makes me feel really lonely. Please help me. Honestly at this point, I don’t know either. But I’m not convinced. 2 hours later he texted saying that he wanted me and I made him happy. He is afraid to break up with you, but that’s what he wants. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch and whenever I am mad at him, he comes back at me and says he wants out and doesn’t want to be with me anymore because he is unhappy. He says it’s nothing I have or have not done and he thinks I am an amazing, wonderful woman that deserves the world. If you do, the right thing will come up, straight from your true inner voice. Someone help please. Let the universe take you to the healing place, where it’s trying to take you. The drinking and gambling implies that he suffers from depression, and yes, his friend is his anchor right now. Now. Yesterday we conclude not to see each other for days, just to see how he feels. 9. She was highly emotional, understandably, and she didn't know how to begin to process this, (much less how to cope with it.) I think that if I were you, I would offer to stay friends and cut off any sexual relationship until he makes up his mind. I am putting the physical part of our relationship on the backburner (which is a big sacrifice to me), until the moment that we are together again. We don't have DC. I have stayed away completely, which I don’t think he was expecting in all honestly. He was once my boy best friend for about 1 year then he started catching feelings for me. Learn how your comment data is processed. If you can’t, and you feel you can’t go any further without his I love you’s, than yes, give him space. In many cases where you feel the love has gone out of your boyfriend’s heart, you’re more than likely to be right. But no kissing. I read most of the conversation and the tips only two apply to my situation. Even if you beg and plead and he’ll come back, it probably won’t last. I hadnt moved in. I came home furious because I felt betrayed and heart broken. . These suggestions in this article for accepting that he doesn’t love you are not about getting him back. Not easy, but possible. If your boyfriend suddenly stops making plans with you or stops talking about the future he sees with you, it’s a bad sign. He says he feels stressed free… that’s because I always was focused on him and not myself. I love him and I’ve tried to talk to him about the changes. Then, when something doesn’t happen like they were used to, they start to internally sweat a bit. 1. I need help I love him but I am getting sick of this. My boyfriend recently just broke up. This makes your relationship a toxic one since it shows how needy and desperate you are. These are the only two choices, as I see it. he dosent even Glace twice. He says he loves me I just don’t understand how he could if he says hurtful things on purpose. (12 Signs to Check), How to Make Him Regret Leaving You (& Losing You), Breakup Prevention Advice by Lisa Redfiled, https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/make-him-regret-leaving-you/, https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/how-to-handle-your-long-distance-relationship/, 80+ Flirty Truth or Dare Questions Over Text (for Him), How to Flirt with a Guy over Text (+37 Flirty Text Examples! It’s a matter of how string you feel right now. And when he does the same things for you, you’re ecstatic and beyond elated. And finally, for ONCE he spoke from his heart (i hope). Rinse and repeat. Also, he blames everything on me, quite literally, and never takes responsibility for his own actions or words. If the answer is yes, I don’t think this makes you his puppet. He sent texts to my mom and sister before he even gave me the breakup text. We would see each other 1-3 times a month and communicate everyday. And if we fight he doesn’t even care to txt me or make peace with me. That’s your decision. I feel its unfair to treat me, when he need me or to speak with me when he feels like it. So, consider every piece of advice carefully, and don’t make things friends suggest your final decision. Please tell me what this means and if he still has feelings for me. I’ve tried not nagging and it still didn’t work. I told him to wait for a week at least, and since then I’m here, waiting. . What it really means: You don't matter to him as much as his friends and family do. He’s working full time, in school, and has been dealing with people in his life who aren’t there for him like he’s there for them. I’m just after a bit of advice. My (soon-to-be EX) boyfriend just told me that he does not care about my feelings at all and when we have arguments he goes back and tells his play little brother everything. What happens when the once smooth love road you were both on is now dusty with one passenger; you? This past Sunday I was there again were he told me that he loved me multiple times and how happy he was. Keep that in mind as I show you the signs that your boyfriend may be losing his love for you because I’ll show you how to reverse it, and make fall head over hills in love with you again. I’ve always had trust issues and I thought I could have trust in him. When you’re in a relationship, it is so much fun! And the easiest way to relieve this guilt is by convincing himself that the feelings are mutual and in fact, you don’t love him anymore either. He wants to be alone right now. Do I just give him space and not 1st I love you for a while? Now you have to decide what you want to do about it. You can travel, try out new sports, make new friends or start something you’ve always put on hold. And now I give him 2 days to sort out his feelings (no communication between us for 2 days), before discussing again because I am afraid that if I continue saying things he might just go crazy. And I hope you can guide me on how to deal with the situation I’m in. Every day, I receive hundreds of emails, all along the same lines: "I'm head over heels in love with this guy. I think that he loves you and is being cautious. Should I believe him or not….for all three??? My Boyfriend Doesn't Love Me Anymore What Should I Do? help!! About a month ago he texted me saying that he didn’t love me anymore but really liked me and felt that he needed a break. Everything was going well, then we argued for a while over stupid things. You have to take the focus off of “us” and to “me”. Am the only one that calls everyday but I have stop. F o your experience, do you think there’s still hope for us given how he is? ( I’ve only known about the broad for 3). I suppose I could be doing something wrong… Or maybe I’m missing something here… I’m not sure. He doesn’t support your passions, your career or your dreams. An hour and a half later, when I was in my house, he called telling me he’s sorry, that he knows I’m the one he loves, that he wanted to see me. 3. He avoids me. Now I’m the one starting everything. Life has a funny way of saving the best people for us till later, so as much as possible use the time alone to work on yourself, and learn to open your heart once more. This guy doesn’t accept you. A way to run away from them (to something he already knows how to handle) instead of dealing with them. So how do i make him want to meet me? Even if a hundred guys lied to you in the past, ,it doesn’t mean that the next guy will do it too. I’m trying to grieve for my relationship with him but also my 5yr olds relationship with him. !, I met his friends…..he’s lied to them told them stuff like I drive and had a car I have only just got my provisional license, the person he has made me out to be to his friends isn’t me, he talks about our future in his house with only his name on the mortgage, he never wants to spend time with me, he goes out and I’m the one cheating on him, it’s always my fault even when I say sorry, when I say he did something wrong he has something I did that was way worse….”aprentally”……he doesn’t want to touch me, or turn me on, or cuddle, or kiss or even sit beside me on a sofa, does he love me? Instead, process your feelings how best you seem fit, be it confusion, anger, heartbreak, sadness, and frustration. He doesn’t care if I go out or hang out with other guys, but it has been that way from the very beginning. 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